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  1. One Word Status Update

    3 years!
  2. While our relationship is doing really well all things considered, there are times when I feel we could benefit from talking to to a counselor but I would never risk going to someone without knowing beforehand their view on adderall.
  3. New day, same results.

    @DrewK15 I see that what I wrote came out wrong. Even though it came out wrong I just get so upset (not mad) when I feel that someone may have unrealistic expectations and use that as a reason to relapse. My hate for this drug has no limit and I think it got the best of me today. My husband is doing really well but he does not like to talk about it much. I think I just needed a release today and seeing Frank waver brought up the suppressed terror I have of my husband relapsing though there has not been any signs.
  4. New day, same results.

    @William It was a stupid fluke and I blame myself. Not a day goes by that I don't wish I could go back to one moment in time and not do what I did. When our son was in 3rd grade he was having "behavior problems" according to his teacher even though his grades were fine. She said he wouldn't stay in his seat and had problems paying attention. Turned out he just needed glasses and was getting up to see what was going on and also was missing things that she pointed out because he couldn't see. But before we figured that out, we took him to a doctor who, you guess it, prescribed adderall. We got a prescription for I think 5mg ir. I really wasn't that thrilled about putting him on drugs so he never even finished the first months supply and we never refilled. Meanwhile we figured out the real problem. But that bottle with 2 or 3 pills stayed in our drawer for 5 years. One day my husband who was 49 at the time complained about not being able to stay focused on his work because of constantly being interrupted by people. I remember it like yesterday - it was a beautiful spring day. I walked over to the drawer and handed him the bottle and in my ignorance said "try this see if it helps". Apparently it was love at first pill. I had no idea that that one act would alter the course of our lives forever. As I said, not a day goes by that I don't relive that moment and want to weep. I constantly imagine walking over to the sink and putting it down the disposal instead.
  5. New day, same results.

    I expected push back. That's fine. My point is that I don't feel that everyone does know this or remembers this especially people who have been on it for years or started very young. I'm glad you do. I hope this is a safe space to rant when needed because trust me it's been no picnic from this side either. I'll try to keep it to a minimum though.
  6. New day, same results.

    @DrewK15 I hear you. In my defense I did say a rant was forthcoming. It had been building for awhile. But I believe I have every right to express my opinion. I survived 11 years of adderall hell. Addiction affects everyone not just the user. I've lost my financial security, endured years of verbal abuse, probably have ptsd to some degree and have gone through a life time supply of tiny violins listening to the job related reasons for continuing using at the cost of everything else in life: health, happiness, marriage, relationships, family, intimacy. I do have empathy even if it didn't come across. I have done everything possible to ease my husband's recovery. I admit to getting impatient with young people (and even 40 is young to me) complaining about how long recovery takes. At the risk of sounding like an old coot: What I wouldn't give for my husband and me to be going through this in our 30's and not our 50's and 60's.
  7. New day, same results.

    That's pretty much sums it up.
  8. New day, same results.

    @Frank B Well I've seen it up close and personal. I figured I would piss you off even though that wasn't my intent. I know you don't think that life should be roses all the time BUT I have noticed an ongoing theme among a lot of you that sounds like you have forgotten or never experienced adult life without adderall and have unrealistic expectations. Everyone has financial worries these days. We are old and have no retirement because of decisions my husband made while on adderall. I don't have the answer to that but I can tell you that adderall isn't it. For the record, I admire you for being so blunt and honest in your posts. I figured you could take it.
  9. New day, same results.

    Going to rant just a bit so I apologize in advance. Sometimes I think that many of you on here have unrealistic expectations of REAL life. Maybe you were on adderall so long that you forgot. Or maybe you started when you were young and got off when you were more mature. More mature as in older, slower, less filled with youthful energy and enthusiasm. All the things that people gradually experience as they age but you missed it because you had artificially masked it. Now you are experiencing it for the first time and well - welcome to the real world. Guess what? It isn't all roses. It sucks sometimes. A lot of the times. Us non-users are lazy, unmotivated, depressed ALL the time too. Who the heck ever said that work has to be fun and fulfilling. It's just f'ing WORK. You know, what you do to make money. That's it. If you don't hate it that's great but not a requirement. Good grief!!! We lay around all weekend watching netflix and not doing shit that we know we should do too. We have days where where it all seems pointless and hopeless too. Yes we have good moments too but they come and go. Life is not one constant stream of energy and motivation. Yes there are those people that seem to always be happy, motivated and energetic but they are the exception not the norm. And maybe they are faking it a good bit too - putting on a show. Like those people who present a perfect life on facebook. @Frank B it IS normal for someone in shape to be unmotivated. One day I may run ten miles, one day I may clean the whole house, and then I may spend several days sitting on the couch on my computer reading in horror and depressed about that thing currently in the white house or wasting hours doing a coloring app on my phone. What isn't normal is endless motivation. But I can tell you one thing that is wonderful about real life these days - not living with an asshole who is a slave to adderall. End rant.
  10. re: husbands weight "back in the day" marathon training weight: 165 pre adderall weight : 170-175 weight at time of quit after 11 years on adderall: 190-200 weight after first few months of quit: 230 weight after appetite leveled out but not exercising: 195-200 weight after several months of keto diet: 175 weight after adding exercise to keto diet: 165 current maintenance weight with normal diet and exercise: 168-170
  11. Adderall Taper Advice

    @Onedayatatime From what I have read here over the years, it seems that tapering often works to get you to a lower level (for example 60mg-30mg) but at some point (for you 20mg) you get low enough that you are just in a continual withdrawal state and are just prolonging the suffering. That is the point in which to go cold turkey.
  12. One Word Status Update

    Day 1000!!!! From and including: Saturday, May 14, 2016 To and including: Thursday, February 7, 2019 Result: 1000 days
  13. Couch to 5k

    @Frank B If you are used to running in traditional shoes with a high heel drop, you should gradually reduce to a minimalist shoe to prevent calf strain as well as incorporate daily calf stretches. Runningwarehouse.com has a lot of good information on running shoes re: heel drop, stack height, etc. It's like women who wear high heels all the time and their calf muscles shorten and they can't wear flats.
  14. Is Adderall ruining my life??

    @joeshmoOur fights got very ugly at times. It was so hard to comprehend how much our relationship changed. When we were a young couple with three little kids and both of us with full time jobs, there was a retired couple that lived next door. They were constantly barking, bickering and yelling at each other and we could hear them from our bedroom. It was awkward and sad and funny at times but the main thing was that we could never imaging behaving like they did. Yet we ended up much worse once adderall came into the picture.
  15. Is Adderall ruining my life??

    How long were you with your wife before you started adderall? If she is willing, tell her about this website and have her educate herself about what has happened to you. My husband was on adderall for about 11 years. I felt like I was living out an episode of the twilight zone where my husband was replaced by an identical looking alien and no one but me suspected anything and no one believed me. This website gave me the answers I was looking for.