I am also glad to come across this forum. I have been married for 20 years. My spouse started taking adderall prescribed by his family practice doctor 2 years ago. He has been a completely different person for a yr and a half. I suddenly became his enemy, he is very paranoid and suspicious of me. He has tried to turn family and friends against me. He isn't interested in things he used to be and doesn't seem to care about anything except his obsession at the moment. He is very narcissistic and has to be the center of conversations. I blame adderall for destroying our Marriage. I have tried to get him to go off of it and even had a conversation with his doctor about the side effects. The doctor continues to prescribe it. He also drinks quite a bit daily.
Welcome to the forums, and sorry to hear about the challenges in your marriage. it's really scary to see someone you know so intimately change right before your eyes. it can make you start questioning all your shared memories and emotions, and blame yourself maybe not seeing these things sooner. I hear a fair amount of guilt in your story, about "screwing up" and not being a better listener, only engaging her at certain times of the day - this is not a healthy relationship, and it's not your fault. It sounds like you're making a lot of excuses for her because you love her dearly, but as much as the drug is to blame, she's the one choosing to take it. I hear nothing in this story about her actually wanting to stop? Here's my advice: take this separation as an opportunity to work on YOU. Be there for her if she needs it, but don't chase after her - she needs to recognize her own failures before you can have a healthy relationship again.
thanks for sharing! looking forward to hearing a happy end to this story in the future (:
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I am also glad to come across this forum. I have been married for 20 years. My spouse started taking adderall prescribed by his family practice doctor 2 years ago. He has been a completely different person for a yr and a half. I suddenly became his enemy, he is very paranoid and suspicious of me. He has tried to turn family and friends against me. He isn't interested in things he used to be and doesn't seem to care about anything except his obsession at the moment. He is very narcissistic and has to be the center of conversations. I blame adderall for destroying our Marriage. I have tried to get him to go off of it and even had a conversation with his doctor about the side effects. The doctor continues to prescribe it. He also drinks quite a bit daily.