I fully endorse cutting out carbs. No sugar, no wheat, no grains...and you have to MAKE yourself get up and move. It is really hard when you are overweight to get motivated to do anything. Cut out carbs for a few weeks and you will see the weight start to come off. Then, add some exercise. You can do this!
I thought of you a couple of weeks ago because we share a love for orange tabby cats. Our 18 year old orange tabby, Mr. Beans, took the final stroll into the woods and has not been seen since. I feel a hole in my life that I never imagined the lack of a cat could cause. Even the new puppy hasn't helped with the loss...
Sorry, I know that doesn't address your issues, but I want you to know that we all have our issues which we are working through. It can be done and you can do it!!