Popular Post Frank B Posted November 1, 2016 Popular Post Report Share Posted November 1, 2016 Ive been reading a self help book that has been a good inspiration to get out of my "funk". One section focuses on the destructive nature of the "Shoulds" Quote:"Thinking with the shoulds is one of the most potent ways that human beings inadvertently turn up the volume of misery. This is a very common thought pattern, unfortunately, really never helps change the situation or to motivate people. Rather, it becomes a source of harsh self-criticism and greatly intensifies feelings of helplessness." I found this section very in line with my thoughts and trying to change that way of thinking for myself. I should be more motivated off adderall what is wrong with me? vs I don't want to feel unmotivated coming off this powerful drug what can I do now to start changing things? Anyways the book is called 'Managing Your Moods' by John D. Preston I picked a copy up at my local library. It's a good book if your like me and beat yourself down all the time but want to change. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amh0624 Posted November 2, 2016 Report Share Posted November 2, 2016 I "should" really check that out....I mean I know I really need to be reading more.... seriously though, have you read any of Brene Brown's books? She has a similar view point- main theme is quit trying to be the version of you you think you should be, and embrace who you are. The fatalistic flaw of the type A perfectionist...to always strive to be " " enough.., thin enough, smart enough, good looking enough.... Enough is enough!!! I am enough...says Brene.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quit-once Posted November 3, 2016 Report Share Posted November 3, 2016 I always feel better when I work on shedding the shoulds. The shoulds are merely empty and hollow wants. Shed the shoulds for a lighter mental load. Needs, on the other hand are a matter of necessity. The person who quits speed just because they think they should will not have the level of success as somebody who truly believes they need to quit. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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