Quitters are my hero's. Even if you haven't quit this crap yet you are my hero for trying. You are my hero if you think you want/need to try quitting and you come here to read stories and find hope. If our common ground is nothing more than a shared hope for a better life-let us build from there.
Straight to the point-key facts to know.
1. I love an addict (alcohol, adderall, gaba, suboxone) -We have been together almost 5 years.
2. My love quit drinking three years ago
3. Rx 90 -20 mg instant-they never last the month
4. Lives with twin who is identical in every way-Rx are the same
5. Simple math-180 20 mg instant-they usually don't last more than 20 days.
6. My love has been on adderall since Feb 2013
Since that February he has lost so much weight he's almost unrecognizable. He lost his job and didn't work for a year. During that time he's accused me of being unfaithful (I have not been) with more than 15 different guys-some I know-some I don't-some are even his family members. He has accused everyone of plotting against him-family trying to poison their food (his twin believes this as well) Drones flying over head and spying on them-police following them (which they think their families or I initiated) Thinks he's spiritual so he is untouchable (invincible) God complex-entitled attitude-I can steal this because they need it less than I need it-anything from any item at Wal-mart to anything their family might have that they "need." Telling me he will be here only to mock me when he never shows....
Okay-you can take all that and times it by 1000 because that is just scratching the surface. As an alcoholic he was more honest, although not completely-he never completed the steps and he "thinks" he is in recovery because he no longer drinks-so drinks have obviously been replaced with something else. He shows no emotion if I am upset or begging him to follow through with his word like dinner, sleeping over etc.
I need some insight here. I can take it.
Will he ever see the destruction he has done and continues?
Does he really think his delusions are real?
Does or will he ever feel remorse? (Not that I need or want this but he seems so robotic that I would love for this emotion to return)
Do relationships ever recover?
Once in a great while I get a glimpse of his heart-and it keeps me emotionally stupid until another incident occurs and I'm back to the lab in my brain trying to figure out something that I will never truly understand because I am not an addict.
I hang on because sometimes I feel as though he's ready to quit-after the 10 days of hellish withdrawal and him forcing himself to go to his crappy job. But then the doctors write another script because my love is a champ at pulling himself together long enough to fool the doc into thinking everything couldn't be better.
Please speak from your experience. No two people are the same however with this particular drug, stories seem to mirror one another in some way.
I have the utmost respect for everyone on here and I wholeheartedly appreciate any insight.
Peace. Praying for peace.